How to Create Happiness Part 3 by Chaz Malewski

Hello beautiful people! I am sending you so much love and good energy today! Before I present to you part 3 of Chaz Malewski’s series of How to Create Happiness, can I just say how much I love this guy? He is such and amazing and beautiful soul, with so much insight and heart. I’m blessed to call him my friend.

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So here is part 3 of How to Create Happiness focusing on the tenet of passion!!

It is undeniable that passion is what causes that spark in our lives. Passion gives us a reason to wake up in the morning and keeps us up late at night.

Passion is a beautiful thing and, when fully realized, can lead to great fulfillment.

But while passion lives in some areas, it may not be found in others. This loss of balance can lead to stress and other unpleasant emotions.

Can you remember back to a time where everything seemed to be going great? There were barely any worries, your relationship was phenomenal, money was flowing left and right; the world just seemed to spin for you.

Undoubtedly, there was an abundance of passion in all of those areas of your life. In other words, you loved who you were, at the job you were at, while being with the person that you loved most. This passion made you feel a certain way; it gave you a reason to go through your day with a wide smile painted on your face.

I remember a very significant time in my life where this situation was evident: my senior year of high school. I was king of the world then. I was captain of the football team, I was in a great relationship, my grades were excellent, I already had a scholarship to college, and my social life was roaring. I was the happiest guy in school.

And then one day, out of nowhere, it happened. Life decided to crash my party.

My senior year of college was awful. My relationship ended in a very painful and emotionally traumatic way. I lost my love for football (the reason for my scholarship). I felt like I had no greater purpose in life and that all I had done in the past was a waste. All of that beautiful bliss I was experiencing months prior had long since faded. I was stripped of passion.

These events led to heavy drinking and depression.

I went through months in a haze, trying my best to live but never feeling alive.

I eventually transferred schools and came back closer to home. I was not happy yet, but it was a start. I knew I had to do something that would give me some semblance of passion again, so I went back to my roots. I looked into sports.

Knowing I was too small (and unmotivated) for the football team, but wanting to get back into contact sports, I joined the Rugby team. On the very first day of practice, something incredible happened.

Boom! Passion.

I was enthralled. I loved everything about the sport, the camaraderie among players,

the growth potential, and the coaching. I wanted to fully throw myself into it, and I did. I played for a full year until I had to quit due to health concerns posed by the sport (it’s a rough game).

This upset me because my passion was being taken from me. The difference now was that I knew how to get my passion back. I had to seek out the things that drove me to be better. The things that gave me a reason to be excited for the day and keep me up late at night researching.

Now, I am full of passion for what I do. I am totally happy because I know I am meant for this and I will be instrumental in helping so many people improve their lives. I am constantly being driven to be better and learn more about myself, causing me to grow in ways that I never imagined.

So, my advice for happiness this week is simply this: chase your passions.

We all have differing passions and dreams we want fulfilled. We are doing ourselves a great disservice by ignoring them or making them out to be fantasy.

Life is about doing the things you enjoy and savoring every moment of our limited time on Earth. Spend your time wisely by investing it in activities or ventures that ignite that spark inside of you. Don’t wait for the perfect time to chase your passion, it will never come. Seek out your passion now and throw yourself into it fully! I know for a fact you will bring more happiness into your life by doing so.

Join me next week as I cover the fourth and final tenet of happiness: Love.

Also, since you have all been such wonderful and dedicated readers, next week I will be giving away a very special gift to you all, totally free of charge. This is my way of saying thank you for investing your time into me.

 I would love to hear your comments about how passion contributes to your happiness, please comment below! Make sure you subscribe to Chaz’s website too!!

Until next time, stay mindful, stay present,

Love, Melissa

How to Create Happiness Part 2 By Chaz Malewski

Hello my friends! Hope you are having a super fantastic week! Please send good energy and vibes to my friend Chaz today, as he is participating in a Firewalking Instructor Training certification this week! I am super excited for him to take this step on his journey of self-discovery and empowerment! Please visit Chaz’s website and subscribe to his newsletter for updates on health, fitness, and other great stuff!

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Here is Part 2 of his series: How to Create Happiness, focusing on Environment!

Does your place of residence bring you happiness? How about your neighborhood or neighboring cities?

Are your friends supportive of your desires and contribute to your well-being?

If your environment is not conducive to your wishes, then you may have a very difficult time finding happiness.

Where you live can largely impact your emotions. If you follow the news, you will often hear of multiple crimes in cities such as Wilmington, DE or Philadelphia, PA. If you live in one of these cities or have relatives there, your emotions are exposed to the impact of these crimes.

If, however, you lived in Scottsdale, AZ (which has the lowest crime rate in America), you probably wouldn’t worry too much about getting shot on your way home from work.

Obviously these are exaggerated examples, but they prove that your environment can either negatively or positively impact your emotional state and happiness.

Look for the beauty in your surroundings. If you live in a rough neighborhood, this is the way I see it: you either move away or you seek out the benefits of living in such an area. Like we covered last week, your focus will play a role in your happiness, so focus on the good of your environment. Where there is bad there is always an opposite good.

The point is that if you are living in an area that depresses you, you will have a difficult time finding true happiness unless you work for it. Do not let your surrounding environment hold you back from the things you deserve.

Your social circle and family also count towards your environment.

Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

Take a minute to think about the five people you spend the most time with. Maybe they are friends? Maybe family? Whoever they are, I want you to think of their qualities and characteristics.

Are they often optimistic and smiling? Or do they normally come to you with complaints and negativity?

The longer you are exposed to an environment, or a person, the more you will begin to adopt the accompanying traits.

I lived with two of my best friends for two years. I love these guys to death and would do anything for them. But they normally did nothing but complain and procrastinate. After a while, I found myself acting the exact same way they were.

Who you spend time with will greatly influence your level of happiness.

Don’t cut out your friends and family completely; that’s ridiculous. Instead, become more aware of how the people in your life are affecting you. Spend less time with the ones that bring you down and more time with the ones that support you.

I guarantee taking note and making adjustments in your environment will dramatic transform your life for the better.

Join me again next week when I cover happiness tenet 3: Passion.

I would love to hear your thoughts on how your environment influences your happiness. Please comment below! Don’t forget to visit Chaz’s website; he has tons of great stuff coming up this year!!

Until next time, stay mindful and stay present,

Love, Melissa

How to Create Happiness Part 1 by Chaz Malewski

Hello everyone! I am super excited to share today’s post with you from my colleague and dear friend Chaz Malewski. Chaz is a personal trainer and life coach based in Delaware. He is available for online consultations and programming, and I can tell you first hand, he knows his stuff! Make sure you visit his website and sign up for his newsletter; he is pretty amazing!

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I am in the process of doing some re-branding my website, creating some new programs, and preparing for the release of my first book: In10tions: A Mindset Reset Guide to Happiness, so things are crazy busy! Chaz has offered to help me out by guest blogging and is providing a four part series on How to Create Happiness. I am super excited, because it is good stuff! So without further ado, here is tenet one of How to Create Happiness, focusing on mindset!

Imagine if you could be happy all the time, no matter what the circumstance.

While it sounds like a fantasy, it is very much attainable. In fact, I’ll prove it. If you aren’t happy right now, you are about to be. If you are happy, you’re going to be even happier.

I want you to think of your happiest memory. If you have many, just choose whichever one you would like.

In a moment, I want you to close your eyes and throw yourself fully into this memory. When you do this, use all of your senses to recreate the moment. See everything the way it was. Remember the feeling you had during this time; the smell in the air, the emotions surrounding the event. Feel your environment and look into the eyes of whoever may have been with you during this time. And, most importantly, smile the entire time.

Now, close your eyes and do not return to reading this until you have totally re-experienced your happiest moment. Stay in the moment as long as you would like.

How do you feel now? Are you happier than you were before?

If you answered yes, then you just created your very own happiness in mere moments!

See, the memory you had isn’t completely real. Our mind cannot remember every single detail of everything that’s ever happened to us, so it must create aspects of our past to complete the memory. You’ve probably experienced this when someone told you a story from your past, yet you remembered it differently.

But here’s the best part: you just figured out a way to forge happiness and all you needed was your brain.

Pretty sweet, eh?

We tend to get into a rut at one time or another and think that we need something to bring us happiness. Whether it is a new job, a new car, jewelry, food, etc., we have a tendency to “buy happiness”. And while the old saying “you can’t buy happiness” means well, it’s not exactly true; you can buy many things that will make you happy. The problem surfaces when we depend on material objects and outside sources to make ourselves happy, rather than relying on our ability to create our happiness.

The mind can make or break a soul. If you can align your mindset with what you

truly want out of life, you will always live to your full potential and happiness is sure to follow.

Take some time to recount old memories or times that you felt ecstatic; when you were carefree. Learn a little more about yourself and explore the things that have always made you happy. Compile a list of your favorite activities and experiences. Begin to train your mind to focus on the best parts of your life and what you enjoy most.

When you begin to reframe your thinking and channel your focus to the positives in your life, negativity loses its impact.

The key to being truly happy is understanding that you are in control of it.

Start to take a few minutes out of each day (10-15 to start) and channel some happy memories. Try to use some of that time to do something that you love, which breaks your normal routine. Begin to create the happiness in your life that you desire, because it’s totally up to you how you feel.

If you want to be negative, think negatively. If you want to be positive, think positively. It really is that simple. Now, whether you choose to believe that or not will be indicative of your willingness to be happy.

Stay tuned for next week’s installment when I go over happiness tenet number 2: environment.

Make sure you visit Chaz’s website: www.chazmalewski.com and subscribe to his newsletter!

Until next time, Stay mindful, Stay present!
Love, Melissa