Self-protection From Yourself

I slept in til 11:30am today and it was fabulous!

I can’t remember the last time I slept that late. This week has been crazy busy, go, go, go! It actually was supposed to be a “down” week, but that was not the case. I just wrapped up my Warrior weekend full of adrenaline pumping activities like fire eating, brick breaking, and zip lining, along with Mastery seminars focusing on important life areas, including relationships, health, money, and spirituality. It was an amazing four days of self-discovery, which I will be sharing more about in the near future, and at the conclusion of it, I was mentally invigorated and physically tired! I had hoped this week to catch up on sleep, but that wasn’t the case. My week was jam packed with coaching and massage clients, being interviewed for a podcast, planning an amazing mindfulness retreat, and working on content for my book promotion. Plus I scheduled some “fun time” to catch up with friends who I haven’t seen in awhile. So much fun and I am super grateful for all the opportunities and experiences this week, but needless to say, I took advantage of a lazy Saturday morning in.

From Left to Right: Best of Delaware Party this week with friends, a typical day's worth of bags full of provisions for the day of clients and activities, on the road having fun changing lives!

From Left to Right: Best of Delaware Party this week with friends, a typical day’s worth of bags full of provisions for the day of clients and activities, on the road having fun changing lives!

The overachiever in each of us often times does not take time to listen to their body or trust their intuition that something is off. It isn’t until we have a full blown melt down that we realize we have been pushing ourselves way too hard. I am all about challenging myself to the next level, but I am learning how to respect my body and create boundaries for myself, to essentially protect myself from myself. This is why I might turn down the invitation to go out, the extracurricular project, or delay the writing process (which is why this week’s post is 2 days late!). When you need a break, you need a break, and to my knowledge there is no award out there for pushing yourself so hard to the point of exhaustion. Above everything else, honor your body.

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It’s all about self-protection. Just as you learn skills to protect yourself physically from attackers, learning skills to protect yourself from burnout and meltdowns is so valuable. So today I would like to share with you 3 tips on How to Protect Yourself From Yourself:

1. Do it because you love it, not because you have to.
We all get sucked into obligations, whether we are people pleasers, feel like we “should” be doing something, or just too tired to say no. When you choose to do something, do it because you love it. Do it because it is aligned with who you are as an individual. This will eliminate some of the other activities that play the role of distractions or are just not necessary to who you are.

2. Emotions drive the bus.
Our emotional states are everything. If you are depressed or anxious, the results you are going to get are going to reflect this. If you are feeling run down, overworked, and beat up, how are you going to serve others to your highest level of capacity? Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but..it’s not going to happen. Emotions drive the bus. Fill up the bus with fuel that emotes confidence, gratitude, hopefulness, and joyfulness and that is going to take you to those respective destinations.

3. Trust yourself.
Trust the way your body feels. Trust that inner voice. We all have the ability to make the best decisions for ourselves and often we ignore our instincts or second guess ourselves. Trust your gut reaction when taking on new projects as the absolute truth; you know exactly what you need.

How often do you protect yourself from yourself? What are the areas you need to break out your ninja skills to protect yourself? Please share your stories in the comments below!

I plan to take the rest of the weekend with no agendas or to do lists and am absolutely ok with that. I hope you will do the same! Have a great weekend and until next time, stay mindful and stay present.

Love,
Melissa
xoxo

Making Friends with Uncertainty

Life for me has been pretty radical lately. I’ve made some major decisions to shift gears in my career. I’ve let go of some little jobs to take on some bigger, long term projects. And with these changes has come alot of anticipation, excitement, and…uncertainty.

Certainty and uncertainty are two different friends that we have in our life. Certainty is that comfortable predictability. You know, that friend you meet for dinner and a movie… at the same restaurant… ordering the same entree…and watching that same romantic comedy. We all crave that comfort, of knowing that we are bound to have a good time because we know what to expect.

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But sometimes we want and need a little variety in our life, and that is where our friend uncertainty invites us out. Going dancing in the city, taking a cooking or art class, or even trying a new restaurant (gasp!). We get a thrill from the anticipation and engagement these new activities have on our senses.

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The thing about certainty and uncertainty is that like different types of friends with different types of personalities, we need a little of both in our life. If we hang out with certainty all the time, we will be bored to tears..there are only so many romantic comedies we can watch! But if we spend the majority of our time with uncertainty, we may end up stranded at the beach with no ride home! It’s a constant dance between the two, honoring each for who they are and what positive aspects they bring into our lives.

Making friends with uncertainty will open up so many doors of opportunity. You will experience things that will enrich your life and help you grow as an individual. There is a difference between making friends with uncertainty and living in uncertainty. Be aware of this as you move forward with these new experiences to embrace and live in the moment, and not to be consumed by it. As with all emotions, the feeling of uncertainty can serve us, if we allow it to. It can keep us honest with ourselves if what we are doing, although may be terrifying, can be exciting and fulfilling to us at some level. Making friends with uncertainty can make this process of self-discovery a little less scary, which is why it is so important to befriend it.

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What is your relationship like with uncertainty? Are you friends with uncertainty and welcome it to your life or are having challenges opening up to it? I would love to hear all your stories in the comments below.

Have a fabulous week! I am off to face some more uncertainty…today begins Warrior 360, Get Life Coaching‘s premier personal development program and I am participating!! It’s 4 days of pushing limits including a 40 foot firewalk, circle firewalk, brick breaking, fire eating, zip lining..and I am sure there are more surprises I don’t know about! I am excited and nervous at the same time; time to make friends with uncertainty!

Until next time, stay mindful, stay present,

Love, Melissa