Happy October!! I’m kinda getting excited for the fall months, pumpkins, boots, and knit hats…yay!!
It has been a pleasure working with Chaz and having him guest blog the past 4 weeks. This week’s post focuses on an area that is important to all of us, including me, and that is love. I believe in love as a key to happiness, starting with the love that you have with yourself.
Make sure you read Chaz’s article all the way through, because he has an AMAZING gift for you, his E-Book, The Life Manual, 50 Rules to Live By, absolutely FREE to you! Enjoy this final piece of How to Create Happiness by Chaz Malewski!
Today, I’m going to use a four-letter word that may come as an insult to some, a joke to others, and a common vocabulary term for the rest.
Keep in mind, I am not trying to offend anyone by using this word.
The word is…..
Now, I know this may come as a surprise to some people but the truth of the matter (the matter being happiness) is that you cannot ever have happiness without love.
Go ahead, think about it.
I want you to list all of the references of love in your life and think about how happy each of them make you. They may also make you crazy, but you know that it’s worth it because you couldn’t live without them.
Some people will challenge me on this and claim that it’s possible to be happy without love, but I firmly disagree. And I will tell you why.
Ever since we were born, we’ve been loved. In fact, we needed this emotional bond in order to grow and live. Our mothers had no choice but to love us directly after childbirth, or we would die.
As we grew up, we gained love from multitudes of people; friends, family, significant others, teachers, coaches, you name it. More importantly, we valued the love of these people so much that we would continuously try and receive more. And with all of their love came differing feelings or modes of happiness, because the love was expressed in different ways.
Family tends to express their love sentimentally and will do things for you or say things to you to prove their love and show you how much they care. We feel their love.
Friends like to have each other’s backs and let the other person know that they will always be there for them, no matter what; that’s another form of love.
Teachers and coaches want us to continuously improve and develop as individuals. They take time out of their schedules to help us and serve us. We may not see this as love while we’re being yelled at on a playing field or sent to detention, but the love is there.
Our significant others want to be our shoulder to cry on and give us that romantic connection and butterfly feeling in the pits of our stomachs. They want to be the source of our smile and love us unconditionally.
Whatever your example of love in your life is, it is undeniable that it also brings you a great amount of happiness. If we went through our lives void of some kind of love, nothing we did would matter.
To put this very bluntly: alone, we are insignificant.
We serve no purpose doing things for only ourselves if it is not benefitting another life as well. The reason we’re on this earth is to procreate; that’s very difficult to do alone (I’d say impossible, but science is crazy these days). Think about it, our one job is to love someone else enough to create a new human being, or to create that new human being and love it with all we have, regardless of how it was conceived.
A.k.a we NEED love in our lives for our lives to matter!
A life without love is a life without happiness. And a life without happiness is no life at all.
So, take a moment some time soon to visit with someone you love. As you’re with them, feel the love, but feel the happiness as well. Let them know how much you cherish them and they will reciprocate.
What’s the key to being happy, then?
Well, if you’ve been following along the past few weeks, you’ll know that there are four keys, or tenets, to being truly happy.
Keep your mindset positive and productive in all of life’s scenarios. Remember, you are in total control of your thoughts.
Surround yourself with an empowering environment.
Chase your passions every single day.
Love and be loved.
And, as promised, to express my voluminous gratitude for reading my work, I would like to give you my e-book The Life Manual: 50 Rules to Live By totally free of charge! Simply scroll to the bottom of the homepage on my website and subscribe to my newsletter. You will then receive an email with your free downloadable copy of my eBook.
Until next time, I hope you all live a very happy and fulfilling life!
You are amazing Chaz, thank you for all that you do!
Have a great week everyone, next week you will begin to see some shifts as I start to prepare you for the launch of my book. Stay tuned!!
Until next time, stay mindful, stay present,