Ok, so I know the title is a bit dramatic…maybe it really isn’t that dramatic, but I got your attention right?
The past couple of weeks I have been in the practice of surrender. It’s been challenging to say the least. To me, surrender is not giving up, but mindfully and lovingly letting go of what isn’t serving you. The challenge with surrender is that it is about letting go, despite the history of the situation, fear of the unknown, and pain of uncertainty. Many of us will stay in a very painful place in our lives and endure these situations, from relationships, to careers, to how we deal with things. Why do we do this? Is it because we are sadomasochists? No, it’s because it is much more painful to step away from what we know into what we don’t know, even if what we know is drowning us.
The process of surrender begins with letting go of attachments. Attachments can range from physical items that you own or expectations of what should or shouldn’t be. But here is the thing…attachments can change at any time. They can be altered or even disappear. Basing our happiness or self-worth on attachments can be a slippery slope, because at the end of the day you are basing it on something you have no control over. Surrender is a process of release and when you can truly release your worries and fears than you can become truly free.
So what does this have anything to do with my hair? For the longest time I have been growing my long locks and have gotten so many compliments. During this time, I really wanted to change some things and shake things up! So what better than a new look? But of course I had some reservations, my hair has become part of my brand and to take that away, what would that leave me with? So the act of cutting my hair became very symbolic for me and a real metaphor of surrender and letting go of attachments. Because at the end of the day, long hair or not, I’m still the same me and nothing physical about me, things that I own, or expectations that I have do not define who I truly am inside at my authentic core.
Surrender isn’t easy by any means, but would you rather let go and yes, you may possibly fail and fall flat on your face, or stay imprisoned by the attachments you are holding onto with fear?
What do you need to surrender to become free? I would love to hear about it, please leave your comments below!
And now the GRAND REVEAL….
It’s so weird when I run my hand through my hair…my mind goes where is the rest of it? But I am embracing the change and that really what surrender is all about.
Have a beautiful day! Until next time stay mindful and stay present.